Reggae music is one of my favorite forms of music. I’m sure you can see this for yourself upon visits to this site. I was attracted to reggae because of the positive messages in the music and the inspiring words so often sang on behalf of the less fortunate in our communities and our world. Not only do reggae artist sing for the uplift of humanity, but many other artist contribute vocally to our betterment. Even today’s gospel music is producing artistes and songs that are taking on a world view in the lyrics. But things seem to be going the opposite direction. I’m aware not all people listen to reggae music, but shouldn’t the fact that these words being sang, like prayers, into the realm of the unseen, begin to produce a better society?
Words are the seeds of creation, a song enhances the creative process. The bible teaches that in the beginning was the Word. Many traditions teach that the Creator sang a song of creation and the sound became light. So then, with so many songs of Love/Enlightenment/Uplift being spread around the world why are we not beginning to see healing? Why are we seeing such malicious violence being wrought on humanity? Is it fear producing such actions? Are we living in such times that we really have succumbed to the (M/L) formula? Material over life-love.
Two things have recently occured in my life that causes me to think, to really ruminate on the idea of words of power being sung into the ethers. One is a news event coming out of Jamaica and the other is a personal event I’m experiencing. Back in April of this year a news story was released in the Jamaica Observer, noting that nearly one million people in Jamaica are squatters, living in over 700 squatter camps across the tiny island of 2.7 million people. What was even more startiling was the fact that the ministers in Parliament expressed surprise about the news reported by Dr. Horace Chang to Parliament. Jamaica is not some sprawling metropolis where the Ministers of Parliament can drive and live without ever seeing such living conditions. How can they express surprise at a living situation that’s been going on for years? This expresses the basic comtempt for their fellow Jamaicans and fellow human beings. Squatting occurs in the land where reggae music was born and grew. Those in charge and in goverment on the island must be plagued with fear of “not enough” overwhelming, the calls of songs for unconditional love for its people. Bob Marley sang “…the brotherly love, the sisterly love I feel this morning, this morning.” I wonder where that feeling went.
Fear of “not enough”, not only tears nations, towns and communities apart, but destroys families. In recent years I have experienced a family memeber dying and the result has been the destruction of what seemed to be inpenetrable love. Yet, these deaths have opened a sleeping volcano of greed that I thought didn’t exist within he hearts of these family members. This most recent death has exposed the fearful heart of a loved one, causing a chasm to develop within the family. How could one that expressed so much love of family, express so much love for his god, now expose himself as such an expert liar and possible thief? Apparently, this being, is no better than the beings he arrests and sends to prison. No better than the liars, thieves, murderers and rapist he holds in so much contempt. Maybe Sigmund Freud was correct when he said police officers and criminals are twigs off the same branch.
In any event we must continue to sing songs of uplift for humanity. Sing songs of unconditional love like prayers going into the unseen for a better tomorrow, for a better day. I am determined not to succumb to fear. I will continue to do as one Bob Marley songs suggests “…Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy.” Fear is manifest in many ways including anger, stealing, hate, rape, glutoney, mischief, jealousy and much more. Fear is a mind killer. I guess some family members feel their need superseeds the needs and wants of others much like a drug addict in the need of drugs. Their fear is expressed in their addiction, as we know a junky will lie, cheat and steal what they know is not rightfully theirs.
Veiled Auset (Isis) in her form as the Goddess of love
Living longer by loving
Part of a healthy life can include a loving relationship. Studies show people that are in a loving relationship live longer. A 1995 University of Chicago study suggests that men live, on average 10 years longer, than their unmarried counter parts and women live four years longer than their unmarried counterparts. Yet, more importantly an Ohio State University study suggests HAPPY couples produce lower levels of cortisol, but couples living in unhappy relationships produce higher levels of cortisol that impacts the immune system and they often face the risk of infectious disease as they age. Cortisol is known as the “stress” hormone, that can increase blood pressure, blood sugar and can suppress your immune system reducing your ability to fight off diseases from a cold to cancer.
We all aspire to good health and many desire a rich and fulfilling relationship, someone to love. What brings me to this thought process is a discussion on the Just Lisa blog on relationships and why people don’t tell someone, they may have romantic feelings towards, how they really feel and why they often “settle” for less than an ideal relationship. Overwhelmingly, the consensus was people don’t express their real feelings due to the fear of rejection.
How to avoid rejection
Fear of rejection, is based, in part on non-communication and your own ego. If this isn’t so, then why the fear? Its important to become friends with a person of romantic interest, spending time talking and more importantly listening to the person with whom you have an interest. Now, guys I know women (not all of them) often like to let you do most of the talking while they listen. But, its equally important to emphasize that you would love to hear her views as well.
Now, here is where its really important to have spent ample time with yourself to be aware of your likes and dislikes, know what you want and don’t want, to know what you can tolerate and can’t tolerate. What, I’m pointing out is that you really have to know yourself, forgive yourself (thats a big one) and really love and appreciate yourself fully. You can’t share love with someone else without first loving yourself.
Learn who you really are by spending time with yourself and truly taking inventory of your life and past relationships. Read books on bettering the self, love and relationships and implement what you learn. Forgive yourself. Its well that we forgive others for any trespasses they make against us, but we have to move forward in our lives and learn from our mistakes and forgive ourselves. It took me many years to learn that I had the ability to forgive myself, so that I could learn to love myself in order that I could love another again. Forgiving yourself is a major step forward in learning to love yourself. Now, when I talk about loving yourself I’m not talking about a self centered “its all about me” attitude, but learning to appreciate who you are, your personal acheivments, and your ability to give love. Loving yourself can produce a happiness with self that exudes and glows around you and in turn, will attract like mined people to you. I think being happy with yourself will eliminate the fear of being alone the rest of your life, stopping the desire to settle for someone that’s not happy with themselves. If you feel the need to settle you should take more time discovering your inner self.
Laying it all out
After spending time learning and loving yourself, and spending time with your potential “honey” its vital to express the things you know about yourself to her or him, specifically the things mentioned earlier concerning, your likes/dislikes, your toleration, your goals. Be honest. Be especially honest with yourself and totally honest with the other person about your concepts of life and relationships. Now, here’s the rub. You must be mindful that your personal standards will work with your potential partner’s understanding of relationships and life concepts. Be honest right up front with the person if your standards don’t have a common ground, and don’t lie to yourself and try to tolerate something by lowering your standards in the hopes that “they’ll come around” to your thinking. This is a recipe for disaster and an unhappy relationship. Remember the word relationship contains the word relate, and this is the purpose, to relate, and to find common ground with a potential mate.
All humans require some form of relationship with other humans, even if they consider themselves loners. In forming a relationship we really have to learn, love and forgive ourselves in order to build a bridge and a bond with another person. By relating our feelings and knowledge of ourselves we’ll find common ground, in essesnce building a common union, a common unity, a community of sorts with each other. I’m hopeful this will bring about better life and better health and a much happier relationship.